Last night a journal saved my life

“There’s not a problem that I can’t fix, coz I can do it in the… Filofax.” True as that may be, we’re getting ahead of ourselves a little. Let’s perform a little DJ backspin trick and rewind the story. It is true that I started keeping a diary as a confused 13yo, after being introduced…

Photography 101: Understanding the histogram, Levels and Curves (part 2)

This two-parter is an accompaniment to the Photography 101 posts on the basic concepts of photography. It’s not a post that will help you take better pictures; rather, it will help you understand the pictures that you have taken, and make more meaningful edits. It’s fun and easy to mess with different filters in apps, but if you ever wanted to understand the mechanics of a photo and cut down on the ‘I wonder what will happen if I use this filter’ time you spend editing photos, this is a good place to start. Part 1 was the theory; this is the practical.

The Erotic Poetry Challenge: “The One”

I mean, who doesn’t love poetry? Apparently, quite a lot of us do. There have been a number of similar stories about the renaissance that poetry is having. Whether it’s the pants-soaking eroticism of Michael Faudet or the wistful heartache of Lang Leav on Instagram, or the simple but hilarious comedy stylings of Brian Bilston…

Photography 101: Understanding the histogram, Levels and Curves (part 1)

This two-parter is an accompaniment to the Photography 101 posts on the basic concepts of photography. It’s not a post that will help you take better pictures; rather, it will help you understand the pictures that you have taken, and make more meaningful edits. It’s fun and easy to mess with different filters in apps,…

Soundtrack of my life – Musically Ranting #2

I could have written this entry, I really could. The issue would have been stopping. In ‘Go-Go, Go-Go, Go-Go, Go-Go Your Own Way‘, a post title I’m now regretting, I spoke a little about house music and how I got into it; and how before house, there was Depeche Mode, leather trousers and dubious sexuality…

#SinfulSunday – May 24th 2020

If you’ve been following my Photography 101 course and read the lesson on low key photography, you’ll know exactly how this image was created…

Photography 101: Low key photography

This is the sixth in my ‘Photography 101’ series, aimed at helping people feel more confident with their camera. Ideally you’ll have read all of the others before now. For best results, follow the ‘Homework assignments’ and try the exercises. You’ll get to know your camera a lot quicker if you do. Yesterday we started…

On how I choose to celebrate my nonbinaryness

I wrote this for May 17th. I wrote it to talk about how I feel about my gender identity, and how I feel about the people who try to interact with it. I didn’t post it because frankly it makes me sound like a sentimental old hippy. And then I made a dark discovery… I…

Photography 101: High key photography

This is the fifth in my ‘Photography 101’ series, aimed at helping people feel more confident with their camera. Ideally you’ll have read all of the others before now. For best results, follow the ‘Homework assignments’ and try the exercises. You’ll get to know your camera a lot quicker if you do. Today, we start…

Photography 101: Combining ISO, shutter speed and aperture

This is the fourth in my ‘Photography 101’ series, aimed at helping people feel more confident with their camera. Ideally you’ll have read all of the others before now, although quick recaps are included here. For best results, follow the ‘Homework assignments’ and try the exercises. You’ll get to know your camera a lot quicker…

Photography 101: ISO numbers – how smooth do you want your photos?

This is the third in my ‘Photography 101’ series, aimed at helping people feel more confident with their camera.You don’t need to read the posts on shutter speed and aperture first, as long as you read all three of these before you go any further. For best results, follow the ‘Homework assignments’ and try the…

Photography 101: Aperture – how much of your photo should be in focus?

This is the second in my ‘Photography 101’ series, aimed at helping people feel more confident with their camera.You don’t need to read the post on shutter speed first, as long as you read them both. For best results, follow the ‘Homework assignments’ and try the exercises. You’ll get to know your camera a lot…

Tell me about… getting pleasure from photography

This week’s prompt over at The SafeworD/s Club is ‘pleasure’… Getting pleasure from my photography I’ve written elsewhere about the reasons for starting this blog. Firstly, that I was nearing the big 5-0 (no, I’m not joining the police) and I had a lot on my mind. Secondly, I have struggled with my body image…

On getting your sex education from porno mags

Like many who grew up in the north of England in the 70s and 80s, the sex education provided by my school was woeful. We had one lesson looking at the reproductive system, aged about 10, when we were all so embarrassed to see pictures of penises on our worksheets that we drew Y-fronts on…

On the Playful Promises Regalia Skylar set

I realised it was Wednesday, and I haven’t posted anything today, and I have two pictures I want to share (only one is of me). I haven’t played #WickedWednesday before so I thought I’d link up to that! 4; 12; 3,106; 13; 21. They’re the number of comments left on five consecutive Instagram posts by…

Go-Go, Go-Go, Go-Go, Go-Go Your Own Way – #MusicallyRanting

“Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-House Nation,Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-House Nation,Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-House Nation,Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-Hou, Hou-House Nation” Music and “lyrics” – Farley Keith Seriously, kids of today, you don’t know what you’re missing out on. They just don’t write songs like that any more. I am old. Very old. Not like, Gandalf* old, or even…

On the removal of body hair

I first started shaving my body hair in school. If you took a Yeti, covered him in glue and then rolled him around on a barbershop floor, it would take a look at my legs and start worrying about looking hairless by comparison. It’s fair to say that it was negatively impacting my body  image…

On falling asleep to the sound of porn

My sex drive has been spectacularly erratic during lockdown. I’m single (I prefer to think of it as ‘having an imaginary sex life’) and I have wavered between living with one hand permanently down my pants, and getting dressed in the dark so that I don’t have to look at my bits. Throw in the…

On the taking of selfies for mental health

I was 47 when I took my first selfie. Defining ‘selfie’ as a photograph of oneself by oneself for purely social reasons – i.e. not because I needed a profile pic for a website, or an identification picture for my national speed awareness course – my first selfie was taken in Brighton train station. I…

The Red Dragon Social Club – prologue

The brunette with the faint welsh accent leaned in to whisper conspiratorially in her husband’s ear. “I’ve been round everyone now, and no-one has any problems with them. I think we should let them in, Pete.” “What do you think of them, Cathy?” “I like them. She’s nice, bubbly with it. A nursery school teacher,…

Your birthday surprise

“‘A surprise’? That’s all?” Yes, that was all. In almost every respect he was a great boyfriend. Thoughtful and considerate, in and out of the bedroom (and many other places too). His thoughtfulness included, unfortunately, a propensity to – I don’t want to say “hound” when it comes from such a good place – but…