On getting your sex education from porno mags

Like many who grew up in the north of England in the 70s and 80s, the sex education provided by my school was woeful. We had one lesson looking at the reproductive system, aged about 10, when we were all so embarrassed to see pictures of penises on our worksheets that we drew Y-fronts on them. And then later, one class on the biology of reproduction in secondary school. Nothing about relationships; nothing about sex for pleasure; nothing about masturbation; nothing about crying during sex with the ex that you hate who you booty-called at 4am when you rolled out of the club. What I learned about sex, I learned from the tired, creased pages of passed-around copies of Fiesta and Escort magazine.

I spent years wondering why UK porn magazines had to be named after cheap family cars.

Thought I’d try something different this time. I’ve served up a lot of low key lewks lately so I thought I’d try something more high key and abstract.

12 Comments Add yours

  1. Your image is perfection in every way, so stark, so teasing – much left to the imagination … and fishnet! My favourite!

    I totally agree with your lament about sex education – I think mine wasn’t delivered at school, rather in confirmation classes (never a good idea to throw religion into the mix IMO) I have mused about it in my blog but it’s a big topic. I hope missy is right and that education is improving.

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    1. Charlie X says:

      There was one PE lesson in secondary school – I’ve been thinking about writing a little more about this – where the girls were kept back in the changing rooms, which never happened. That’s where they were given some more practical information about their cycle, products, etc. But they were told, explicitly, not to tell the boys what they had learned in their lesson. They weren’t told why, just told not to discuss it/ It’s no wonder a whole generation has grown up thinking periods were bad or not to be talked about – we were programmed that way. But thank your lovely comments, again!

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      1. Posy Churchgate says:

        Charlie, that is exactly what goes wrong. Yes they needed the information, and perhaps a safe space in which to absorb it, but the rest of that stuff just makes them thing it is taboo and builds on the secrecy. Women endure terrible stuff regarding their menopause for same reason – it doesn’t get talked about. Gah! Frustration all over the place!
        I am loving your blog!

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        1. Charlie X says:

          Thanks, Posy. I remember when the boys in my class discovered periods and we thought they were like wet dreams. It sounds stupid, and it is stupid, but how were we supposed to know otherwise?

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          1. Posy Churchgate says:

            How indeed?! Perhaps we should collaborate on a post regarding misunderstandings and misinformation. At least the internet saves kids from a lot of these troubles … but there are new ones.

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            1. Charlie X says:

              I’d be up for that! I mean, I’m not an expert… I literally found out about female reproduction from a misplaced book in the dinosaur section of the library.

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              1. Posy Churchgate says:

                I found it all out from my older sister!
                She definitely told me too much too young!

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  2. May More says:

    Adore how your leg kinda disappears into the background.
    My sex education was similar to yours. My brother kept his “dirty magz” under his bed. He went off to work at about 6 am – when the 14 year old me would spend half an hour b4 going to school educating my self about sex. Ah yes I remember it well!
    May 😉

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    1. Charlie X says:

      Ah, that sounds familiar! I think the readers’ wives sections are where I get my hatred of 70s wallpaper from. So off-putting.

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  3. First of all, the image is gorgeous! Artistic, and classy 🙂

    I grew up in South Africa, and just like in the UK the sex education there was almost non-existent. I only had one class dealing with it, and that was a high school biology class. Everything else I had to learn about sex was either in books (not porn mags as I couldn’t get my hands on then until well into my adult years) and personal experience. I wish that some of the things I know now, I had known at a younger age.

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    1. Charlie X says:

      I might do a follow up post. I only found out about the female reproductive cycle from a book in the dinosaur section of the library. True story.

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  4. missy says:

    I know what you mean about sex education back then and ours was equally lacking. I think I learnt by doing and talking but there were so many things that I just did not have a clue about and I think that possibly, like you, I spent years not really understanding where some of my thoughts and feelings were coming from. I hear lots of people complaining still about what is and isn’t taught but I would argue that, while not perfect, what we are delivering is Scotland is actually very good and I think some people would be quite surprised to learn what topics are actually covered.

    I love the more abstract nature of this image, and the little creases in your skin are perfect. missy x

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