Recently a friend sent me an article to read. Entitled “Are we having sex now or what?”, it’s an entry from Greta Christina’s blog and something I’m surprised to say that I never thought of before. In this blog entry, the author attempts to define what sexual intercourse is. Now I realise that historically, when I thought of the number of people I’ve had sex with, I limited it to the number of people that I’ve had penetrative vaginal sex with. How ridiculous is that! Of course sex is more than one person putting a fleshy bit into someone else’s moist bits. Much more. The fluidity of how we define sexual intercourse means that we can no longer really count the number of partners someone has had in any meaningful way. It also means that we can no longer shame someone with that same information, and that’s got to be a good thing. In one stroke, this article makes those ‘statistics’ meaningless.
Interestingly, that also means that I didn’t lose my virginity to an older woman when I was 15, like I always assumed. I must have lost it to a boy my own age a year or two earlier.